People just love pity parties. They are so fun and jam-packed with complaining, whining, and lots of comparing. However, we have to be in a special mood to partake in such a party. I try to make my appearance rare to these parties, but occasionally I find myself being pulled into them. I at least try to limit my stay for only five minutes. Granted there are times when I want to stay longer, but I try really hard to stick with the five minute rule.
What do these parties have that are so intriguing? They are full of “I want,” “I don’t have,” “Why” and “That is so not fair!” I have to admit there have been times when throwing a themed “comparing and coveting” pity party in my honor has taken up a lot of my energy; and I’ve had to ask myself, “Is the thrill of the party really worth it?”
I have a choice: I can stay at this party all night and wallow in self-despair or I can go to a different kind of party. The theme of this other party is one of love, confidence and contentment. And the one who set up this party is the best party-thrower of all: God! I am invited to enjoy His party everyday. His party is full of forgiveness, blessings, and mercy.
Now, that is a party that I want to attend and stay as long as I can! I know that at God’s party I will find joy and peace; my pity parties only leave me feeling hopeless and dissatisfied. God has shown me that my life truly is blessed! I love my kids and my husband. I love the plan God has for me. I shouldn’t covet one particular blessing of another woman; if I do, I might as well ask God for her entire life, and I really don’t want that.
Therefore, I choose to leave my self-created pity parties and attend a party where God has presents just for me and music played in my honor. Nevertheless, if I have to throw a pity party, I only stay for five minutes; then I hop on over to God’s cool party where everyone has fun.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
– Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)
“God, I know that there are times when I compare myself to others, and I have a disgruntled attitude. Please forgive me when I throw myself pity parties. Please remind me that I am wonderfully made, and help me to remember that You have a party full of blessings just for me. Please bring to my mind the many presents that You have written my name on, including…”
Spiritual Chick with Wings