I knew two women with boyfriends who didn’t want to commit. God asked both of these women to end their relationships. One woman ended the five year relationship fully anticipating that her boyfriend would see the error of his ways and become the hero she wanted; instead, she was shocked when he agreed and six months later proposed to another woman and quickly started a family.
The second woman ended her five year relationship with her boyfriend fully anticipating that he would agree and she would lose him forever. Her heart was broken, but she knew she deserved a hero not a dud. When she told him that they needed to end the relationship, he wouldn’t hear of it. He wanted to do whatever it would take to keep her.
Suddenly, her dud became a hero. Six months later he proposed to her. Both these stories seem different on the outset, but in actuality, they are exactly the same. Why? The first woman later found her hero, and they have been married for several years and have started a family. If this woman would have disobeyed God and waited on the dud, she would have lost the beautiful marriage and family she enjoys today.
The second woman, on the other hand, obeyed God allowing Him to un-shell her hero, and they have been married for several years and have also started their family. A hero as a husband is not some fantasy; it is Biblical. God says that a husband should be willing to die for his wife! How much more heroic can one get?
Although both husbands and wives will make mistakes along the way, that should not stop us from trying to encompass everything God desires for us. If we as women are willing to be the Biblical wives that God has designed us to be, we can ask no less of our husbands.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
– Ephesians 5:25 (NIV)
“Father, help us to put You before any one else. Help us to make the right decision of who You want us to commit our lives to in marriage, and help us to be patient and to wait on Your approval. Lord, please be with me or any of my friends who might not be in a good relationship. Allow me to pray for her now….”
Alisa Hope Wagner